During the dissolution, you may not be in the frame of mind for gratitude. It’s another matter altogether that many people who get divorced go on to believe that the divorce was the best thing that ever happened to them. Feeling grateful is something that comes more easily when the dissolution proceedings are complete. How, however, do you stay grateful while the dissolution is on and what can a divorce lawyer in NY do to help?

According to a study, writing down things that you are grateful for during the divorce in a journal can actually help. The study found that people who wrote down all the things that they were grateful for in a gratitude journal were likely to be much more optimistic, and much better able to solve their problems compared to those who were not into this habit.

Every day, make a list of at least five things that you are really grateful for. Remember, all may seem dark now, but there’s plenty for you to be thankful for. Your health, your children’s health and well-being, the support of your family and friends and friends, even that pecan pie-flavored ice cream you had this morning is enough reason to give thanks.

Finding things to be grateful for even if they’re small things, can change your attitude and equip you better to face the emotional challenges that you’re likely to face after the divorce. Gratitude heals and protects you, and you will find that any resentment or bitterness that you are hanging on to will slip away as you learn to become more optimistic and see the positive side of things. Positivity will take you a long way after the divorce.

Some people even find it in themselves to celebrate a divorce as they would a wedding. In fact, celebrating dissolution is a very hot social and commercial trend at the moment. Event planners and caterers offer a variety of packages starting at around $1,000. One bakery in Florida markets divorce cakes.

While the Gideon Putnam Resort has historically been the setting for lush and extravagant marriage ceremonies, the resort is now marketing weekend “divorce getaways” for $5,000 per couple. You check in married on Friday, enjoy a lovely weekend escape, and when you check out late Sunday, you’re divorced. A divorce weekend includes separate accommodations, separate attorneys, and a divorce mediator as well as dark chocolate and red wine.

For some, dissolution is a reason to celebrate, and if the Gideon Putnam Resort dissolution getaway is right for you, congratulations. However, if you are like most divorcing couples, that approach is not exactly going to work. Instead, the first thing you should do is to contact an experienced Peekskill divorce lawyer for the legal advice and representation you need.

If you’re divorcing, you need an attorney who takes your concerns seriously and fights aggressively on behalf of your best long-term interests. For more advice on how to move on with life after dissolution, check out the other posts on this Westchester County divorce lawyer blog. If you have questions about how dissolution will change your life, speak with our Westchester County divorce attorneys.

By: Kimberly Pelesz

Family law and criminal defense attorney Kimberly A. Pelesz received a B.S. degree magna cum laude and an M.P.A. degree summa cum laude from Binghamton University. She earned her J.D. from Pace University School of Law in White Plains, where she was selected for Phi Alpha Delta. Her charitable activities include work with My Sisters’ Place in White Plains and the Westchester County District Attorney’s Humane Education Taskforce.

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