In some cases, parents may decide to share custody of the child. There may be several variations of this kind of arrangement.

The parents, for instance, may decide to share legal custody, but one person may decide to retain physical custody of the child. In a case like this, they share legal custody which means that the parents jointly decide on the child’s education, extracurricular activities, the religion that he will follow, his healthcare, and may make a joint decision on these matters. However, the child will live primarily with one parent. Talk to a child custody lawyer in New York about the child custody arrangement that is most appropriate for your situation.

In another variation, the parents may share both legal as well as physical custody of the child. In a case like this, the child may live with each parent, spending about half of his time with one parent and half of his time with the other. The parents may also share legal custody of the child.

Remember, that in a joint custody arrangement, it is important for both of the parents to cooperate, and the divorce must have been a friendly one. If you decide to share physical custody, know that it is often very difficult to make such arrangements work, because of geographical distances between the parents’ houses. These kinds of arrangements work best if both of the spouses live close together, and have a mutually agreeable relationship.

Post-Divorce Parenting Tips

When your ex shares custody of your children, you’ll face some difficult parenting challenges. If you need legal assistance with a divorce or any child custody dispute in Westchester, Dutchess, Putnam, Orange, or Rockland County, contact an experienced Peekskill family law attorney at once. Even in the happiest marriage, parenting is the hardest job. After a divorce, nothing is harder. Dr. Peggy Kruger Tietz is a family psychologist who writes about divorce and parenting issues. Recently, Dr. Tietz offered these suggestions for solo parenting after a divorce:

  1. Don’t kid yourself. Accept the reality. Single parenting is a difficult situation to be. Don’t pretend that it isn’t.
  1. Do not be too hard on yourself. Understand that every parent makes a few mistakes. Your kids are resilient, and usually, they’re forgiving too.
  1. Try to practice flexibility. Your ex may be hard to work with, but try to. Unwillingness to budge can make things tougher for everybody.
  1. Different parents will inevitably have different rules. If you’re a stricter parent than your ex, one day your kids will know that you were doing your best in a tough spot.
  1. Do not go it alone. Have some people in your life who care. When you alone are supporting and supervising your children, be sure that you have your own emotional support.
  1. Maintain patience and faith that you will find a way to handle solo parenting, and you will.

Even without custody fights, child support battles, or visitation disputes, divorce is difficult and solo parenting is hard. If you are involved in a dispute with your ex regarding any of these matters, you need relief fast. Contact an experienced Peekskill child custody attorney at once for whatever legal help or advice you need as a single parent in New York.

By: Kimberly Pelesz

Family law and criminal defense attorney Kimberly A. Pelesz received a B.S. degree magna cum laude and an M.P.A. degree summa cum laude from Binghamton University. She earned her J.D. from Pace University School of Law in White Plains, where she was selected for Phi Alpha Delta. Her charitable activities include work with My Sisters’ Place in White Plains and the Westchester County District Attorney’s Humane Education Taskforce.

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